If you don't forgive someone,
you have to carry their burdens.
There's nothing wrong
with being a 'control freak'.
Begin with your mind.
There's nothing greater to a man than when he goes home, after a hard days labor, his wife greets him and says, "Hello love, how was your day?" He replies, "I worked hard for my family. It was great!" (That's how it was in North Yorkshire.)
They limit consciousness by programming it. Find the 'delete' button within yourself and hit it.