THE ANSWERS ARE IN YOURSELF

All my talking is about ending pain & suffering.
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The world means delusion.
The World is not 'out there',
The World is in the mind.
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What caused the world to arise
in you in the first place?
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A 'person'
 is a limited way of seeing oneself.
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A wise master puts an undisciplined dog on a short leash and teaches the dog discipline. The dogs discipline manifests as an ability to obey the masters' command. If the dog doesn't come back, on command, when it's let off the leash...the problem is the masters' not the dog. Sit a well-trained dog on the opposite side of the street to you and wait for the first car to appear and then command the dog to 'come'. A well-trained dog will not even see the car. It's eyes will be constantly on the master.
Love is the master. Violence has no place in the equation.
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The master
gives meaning to the dogs' life.
Love
gives meaning to mans' life.
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If you untie your children from your apron strings before they are fully trained, don't be surprised when they get into trouble.
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When Mum's home all is well.
When Mum's not home the children will express their unhappiness in an unpleasant fashion. There is no such thing as a home without a mother in it. A mother is a child's' first Guru and best friend. Buying shoes with Velcro ties, robs the mother of her duties. Who do you think taught you to tie your shoelaces? If you trip in life then you are not following your mothers' commands. Never has a child's' mother been replaced. There is no replacement for a mothers' love. A true mother will willingly die for you. What you make of yourself in life is your attempt at repaying your mother.
A man who stays true to himself, (man is inclusive of woman) makes his mother proud. She will hold her head high and proclaim to the whole world, 'This is my son!' He is the son of God. He is Gods' gift to me. I have performed my duties and raised him well. He is now my gift to the world.
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When the child is in pain,
so is the Mother.
When the Mother is in pain,
so is the child.
Everyone know when Mother is in pain.
It is a Universal feeling.
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When children cause problems in Society, why punish the child? Look to the mother.
When a dog causes problems look to the master.
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Sins are committed out of ignorance.
Destroy ignorance and sin does not exist.
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The next time you fill up your car at the gas-station, ask yourself this question; How many more mothers and children have to die in order that I may drive?
How far will a car drive with a petrol tank full of blood?
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Living in an oil-rich country may appear to be a blessing, at first sight. Look closer and you will find that it's a curse. At the end of the day the ones who consume the most will suffer the most. True humans do not consume. Parasites consume. (Parasites consume what they don't need. It is in their nature.) Allowing yourself to be labeled a 'consumer' is an insult. Societies suffers from the disease called 'consumption'. TB is on the rise and millions will die.
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When is enough, enough?
Greed does not recognize the word 'enough'.
At any given moment, you are free to say 'NO! Enough is enough!'
Ask a 2-year old child about the power of 'NO!'
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In the Aboriginal society it is a known fact that whatever you take from the Earth puts you in debt to Her. To balance the books, the Earth demands blood.
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To eradicate drug pushers from Society, law-enforcement will go after 'the pushers'.
When a president of a country tells you that you are addicted to oil, tell him to go after the 'pushers' and that you will deal with the suffering of addiction. It's called 'withdrawal!'
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Warfare is a sure sign of a societies impotence.
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Penetration and withdrawal apply equally to war and sex. A potent man would not be able to attain an erection and commit the war-crime, rape, on the battlefield.
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Once a society stands by and allows it's military to bomb domestic sites, such as water supplies, electricity supplies and food supplies, then know that we all live on a battlefield.
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Do unto others as you would have them do unto us.
It is the law of Nature.
Break that law and suffer the consequences.
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We claim we are involved in a righteous war, then do not kill civilians. There is nothing 'righteous' in the bombing of women and children. The words 'collateral damage', (when applied to the killing of women and children), translated means 'soft pornography.'
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As a child at the dinner table, I once told my Father, "I don't like this." His reply was, "The trouble with you boy, is that you are too well-fed." He took the food off my plate and ate it. He then said, "In the first Wold War I was a soldier in the trenches for 3 years. I have seen men trying to eat their own shit and drink their own piss in order to stay alive! And you, turn your nose up at good food? You don't deserve it!"
He taught me 'deserve comes before desire'.
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Truth is spoken over the breath.
Lies are muttered under the breath.
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Neurotic eating habits and a troubled mind go hand-in-hand.
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We may use the words 'physically challenged' or 'crippled'. The fact is, the man can not walk on his own. You may use the words, 'mentally challenged' or 'retarded'. The fact is , the man is dysfunctional. Political correctness can only be projected onto a society that doesn't feel good about its actions. A spoonful of sugar makes the medicine go down.
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Do not claim to be human and demonize another man to the point where you can kill him with a clear conscience and then claim, "It's alright, he's not human!"
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When a designer handbag costs more money than a third-world family makes in 5 years then, surely, we are doomed.
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In my world, one mans gain is every mans' gain.
On Earth, one mans' gain is another mans' loss.
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Is your mother less related to you than your sister? Is your Middle-Eastern brother less related to you than your third cousin who happens to have dark skin?
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Each and every man is nourished in the womb. How can there be different wombs, if they all function the same? A child's' personality is formed in the womb and colored by the mothers' thoughts.
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Show a dog love once and it will never forget. So it is with the Guru.
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In the Western world we read from left to right. In the East they read from right to left. Take the word DOG. Start from left to right and see what you get. Then read from right to left and see what you end up with.
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I am a 'God-dog.'
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A dog cannot have 2 masters.
It only causes confusion.
Confusion does not a happy dog make.
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Once one deals with blame
where is the need for praise?
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Everyone is equally responsible for everything and nothing.
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Hypocrisy implies lack of good breeding.
'Do as I say and not as I do' is hypocrisy.
What great men do, lesser men follow.
What hypocrites do, fools follow.
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Whatever you need in life will come to you providing you have the courage to recognize it.
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Massive famine will descend on America. What are you going to do then...eat each other, and when your belly is full, will you still claim to be human?
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When you put out 'shock and awe', don't be surprised when it comes back to you.
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When you elect a politician, he acts on your behalf.
If you believe he's not speaking for you
then you do not live in a democracy.
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Birth does not give you the right to claim that you are human.
'By their actions shall ye know them.'
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I have yet to see or hear of a man-made weapon that has not been used on one of our 'family members'. Once a war-weapon has been used against a family member, it will eventually turn against its creators.
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Whatever is created does not want to die, (which includes Nuclear Weapons). They are no different than us. They live to fulfill their purpose, the same as we do.
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How does a man control something that has more power than him? It will one day bite him in the ass.
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Getting rid of guns does not eradicate killing.
I seem to remember a boy once killed a man with a slingshot and a pebble!
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Any fool can kill.
Not any fool can Love.
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The reason we are afraid and paranoid of another country dropping a Nuclear bomb on us is because we've already done it!
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Mans' own actions create fear and paranoia.
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Once you're out of tune,
your song will be out of tune.
It will not sound pleasant to the ear.
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Installing weak people in power positions can only end in disaster, for all of us.
Do not expect a feeble-minded man to negotiate.
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Love and Peace are non-negotiable.
They are states of being.
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True Peace will manifest by its' own power,
when man has had enough of war and killing.
I ask again, "When is enough, enough?"
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A man who doesn't know that he's had enough to eat, doesn't know when he's had enough of ANYTHING!
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Another word for greed is 'overeating'.
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The right amount of fuel makes a good fire.
Excessive fuel puts it out.
Sit too close to a fire and you will get burned.
Sit too far away from the fire and you will freeze.
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Be honest with yourself.
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Love is fire.
Fear is cold, hence, in certain situations, people 'freeze up'.
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Love and the heart are inseparable.
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Fear and the sphincter are inseparable, hence, a soldier on a battlefield was asked when he returned home, "What was it like?" His honest reply was, "I shit my trousers!" (literally)
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Do not look to me for answers. The answers are in yourself.

INTERVIEW QUESTIONS & ANSWERS

do you believe mental or  physical abuse is more damaging?

All forms of abuse stem from ignorance of ones' true nature. 
It's all a matter of degrees. 
On the physical side it's called violence. 
On the mental, emotional and feeling side it's called
abuse. 
Before one can answer that question one must ask 
where this violence comes from. This so-called great country 
of ours was founded on violence. Violence was committed 
on convicts in the transportation to Australia, (slave labor) 
and violence was institutionalized
against the Original People of this land and still is to this day! 
Our children are the closest to our earth, the foundation. 
So you can expect the violence and abuse to manifest 
in them first. 
Look at the UK, for example. 
When mother is not at home, children are not happy. 
Unhappy children grow up to be unhappy adults. 
Unhappy adults are more likely to commit 
abuse and violence, men and women.

is a relationship survivable once abuse has become a part of it?

It depends some people actually like it, 
(believe it or not!) 
As my mother 
drummed into me
when I fought 
and 
argued 
with my sisters, 
"IT TAKES TWO TO TANGO!"

Long term abuse and violence 
in a relationship 
comes about when both parties 
abuse themselves.

Why would anyone, in their right 
mind, allow 
another party to beat and abuse

them if they didn't already 
do it to themselves? 
Why would a man or woman

who loved themselves unconditionally 
be attracted to those kinds of 
relationships
to start with.
I'll give you an example:
In the book I wrote, MY DANISH PASTRY, 
why did I end up leaving Jonna? 
She showed
me the error of my ways. 
She was a master of 
committing violence and abuse on herself.
I felt like a novice in her company, 
which 
led me to discover 
that I didn't need to do what
I was doing to myself anymore. 
Hence, 
no more relationship.
All relationships are based 
on the relationship 
one has with themselves. 
That's as good as it gets.

do you think domestic violence is punished harshly enough?

I don't know the law well enough to 
answer that question. 
What I do know is, as a 

young  man, I punished myself 
mercilessly  at time. 
Most times, 
I didn't know why. I only

stopped when I ran out of 
excuses for 
not loving myself 
unconditionally. What I will say
about the law is that 
it's rotten and corrupt. 
It needs to be applied equally. 
Here's a good example for you. 
There have been three cases 
I read of women cutting
off a mans' penis. The outcome 
was not a 
very harsh punishment 
which was metered out.
I haven't heard of a man who sewed 
up a vagina while 
his wife was asleep. Maybe men
value a vagina more than women 
value a penis. (LOL)

you wrote this book from a male perspective, yet you were honest and unbiased 

and gave readers a bird's eye view of a dv situation. 

Was that difficult for you to present 

and put down on paper emotionally?

The short answer, no. Once I was out 
of the relationship 
I set about destroying the 
ignorance that created the relationship 
in the first place. 
There can never be enough 
destruction of ignorance. 
It is the greatest 
plague on our planet!

MY DANISH PASTRY (Not a cookbook) is a comedy
and a tragedy. 
Two young victims stuck on 
the wheel of Karma like 
hamsters in a cage, 
I grew up in an era where 
the program 
from the establishment 
said, 'Big boys don't cry!'
I broke the mold. I cried 
the relationship 
out of my system 50 years ago. 
That doesn't mean
I forgot about it. 
I carried it with me 
from that day 
until MY DANISH PASTRY 
was published.
It's all yours now people, 
warts and all!

Looking back on the relationship you have written about, 

did you see that there were warning 

signs that you overlooked in 

the hope of the relationship working? 

if so, what were they.

There were more warning signs 
than flees on a dog
 but I ignored them all. 
The more 
I ignored them the 
more they bred. 
For example, 
she got pregnant 
after one roll 
in the wool. 
Was that a 
testament to 
my virility

or her stupidity 
for stopping 
taking her 
birth-control pills right 
after she met me.
She spoke very little 
english. What she did 
speak was bad but I thought
I could fix that. 
She was Very moody, 
addicted to
strong over-the-counter 
headache pills 
and far too many 
warning signs to bore you with.

So, why did I stay?
 The main reason was that 
she was pregnant. 
In those days, I foolishly
believed I could help her 
attain 
some happiness in life. 
I learned the 
hard way, no one can 
do anothers' 
work for them. 
Everyone is their own 
responsibility. 
Jonna told me many times 
that she would die 
very young. At around 35 
she was a prostitute 
living in Denmark.
 She ended up 
being strangled to
death on her bathroom floor. 
When I first heard about it, 
I realized she had
what I've heard people 
call a 'death wish'.  
In the time we spent together 
I can remember and 
have written about 
all the times when 
she prodded and goaded me. 
Many's the time 
I thought, 
'Why don't I just
choke this bitch to death and 
put her 
out of her misery!' 
But for the Grace of God 
there goes I! 
Her current 
boyfriend at the time fulfilled her wish.

Sabatoge, now there's a
beauty for you. 
When is that ever 
spoken about?
People can do some 
real good damage 
to themselves and 
others with 
that abusive tool. 
I have 
worked with people 
who relied on tha
t little gem for 
years. My mother tried to
sabatoge my father 
for years by constantly 
nagging him to be 
something he wasn't. 
I learned it from 
her and used it
on myself, as a 
young man. 

So, sabotaging oneself 
implies abuse. 
I am not worthy and 
lovable enough. 
I don't deserve love!
Sabotaging another implies 
fear and control, 
another form of 
abuse...and on 
and on it goes.
Loving oneself 
is the only way to end 
the cycle of abuse!
Every night, before you take rest, 
remind yourself;

I LOVE MYSELF IN 
SPITE OF EVERYTHING

NOT BECAUSE OF 
EVERYTHING

In this ever-changing world 

domestic violence seems 

to be on the increase, 

do you have any 

thoughts about it? 

what you felt from your experience?

I do not live in a world of 
domestic violence

but I can tell you this from 
what I read and see on
the media. 
All forms of violence 
and abuse
 are on the rise not to 
mention 
rot, corruption and greed. 
It surrounds us every day 
and it won't stop until 
we do something about it. 
When things get 
bad enough 
right action will follow. 
My question is, how bad 
does it have to get?
The governments 
are reflections 
of the people 
and vis-versa. 
If you're waiting 
for the status 
quo to change 
things by law, 
you'll be 
waiting a long time. 
Start with yourself first. 
At least you won't 
be adding to it.

Knowing what you know now, to what you knew then, 

where do you think society needs to 

start for people to learn how not to abuse?

Education, Education, Education!

It's very simple really. 
Be like a small child,

before it's programmed.

Don't abuse yourself 

and you won't abuse

others. 
Treat people like you 
would like to be 

treated. It works. 

That's all you can do.

Some people 
love being 
abused so they always 

look for someone 

to abuse them. 
If you have 
someone in your life

who is like that, dump them 
immediately! No matter

who they are. 
They can only bring you down.

As a young man, I expected 
Jonna to fulfill all my 

fantasies and 

dreams and make 

it all better. 

She wanted 
the same. 

We both failed 
miserably! 

No one can do 
for you what 
you won't do 
for yourself.

What do you hope readers 

will take away from this book?

First up, let me say, 
I don't live in a 
world of hope. 

Those who live in 
hope, die in hope.

Let's use the word TRUST 
instead. I trust in my heart 

that whoever reads 

MY DANISH PASTRY 
from beginning to 
end will be 

transformed by the 
brutal honesty

and unconditioned love that wrote it. 
I want for you 

what I attained 
in life for myself. 

I had to live it for 
four years and 
it transformed my life. 

All you have to do is read it

in what will take a few hours. 

Base your actions 
in love and 
you can't go wrong. 

In those days, 
I based my actions 
on lack and fear.

 It was doomed before it started!

What are your thoughts regarding the 

emotional impact of the book?

Feelings, feelings, feelings! 
Those who can't feel 

are walking dead. 

Anything that is alive, 

on this planet, 
has feelings. 
Feelings are the 

tentacles of the heart. 

They are similar

to muscles, from 
the standpoint, 
'use them or lose them'. 

First, learn to feel 
for yourself,

then it will radiate out and 
affect everyone.
Once you can feel 

the pain and suffering 

of the world then 
you'll realize 
your heart has 

manifested 
its full potential.

Compassion is all!

Limitation causes 
pain and ignorance 
causes suffering. 

You may have to put up with

some pain but you are not 
compelled to suffer!

Do you have a message, to enlighten or educate, 

or assist that you want to share regarding 

this book for people who are and or 

have been in an abusive relationship?

For those of you who are 
in an abusive and 
violent relationship, read 
MY DANISH PASTRY 
(Not a cookbook!) LOL 
Next, ask yourself 
the most dangerous
 question you've ever asked,

WHAT AM I NOT AWARE OF
THAT I NEED TO BE AWARE OF?

Don't ask if you are 
not serious otherwise 
you won't like the answer. 
For those who have moved
 on from an 
abusive relationship, 
my heart is happy
for you. 
You have educated yourself as 
I did, as a young man.
I don't need to do that again!

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